Confidence = Arrogance?

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Cover Picture: Gone But Not Forgotten by Damian Hirst – Installation at The Faena Hotel, Miami. @FaenaMiami

A while back, my wife and I were talking about how people can have mistaken perceptions of others. Specifically, our conversations circled around health, veganism, and humanitarian causes (I’ll save that post for a future date). Being the only Edmund Amoye I know, I had to personalize the topic of perception (inspired by this post’s cover picture).

In my line of work, I get to meet a lot of people, and make impressions. I’ve found that there are usually two camps on people with views of us: they either like us or they don’t. 

Seriously that’s it. The descriptors people use to remember us are either positive or negative. However, sometimes people make mistakes. Most folks have told me I am very passionate about my work; and they love my approach to customer service. There’s another group that will see passion as being snobby; or service as pandering. Confidence can easily be mistaken for arrogance.

The feedback we receive from others can substantially affect how we act. Just read this article on confidence. If you need help differentiating between a true perception (people have of you) and a mistake (bias), consider the hidden agenda(s) of the person giving feedback. Think about the layers of the onion, not the surface.

I am comfortable with people having differing opinions about me. I can’t (and don’t intend to) make everyone happy. That would require way too much energy and would make for a very boring world.

You don’t have to respond, but I would like to know how you handle the perceptions people have of you.

Cover Picture: Gone But Not Forgotten by Damian Hirst – Installation at The Faena Hotel, Miami. @FaenaMiami


Alex Atala Says This is Luxury

It is not necessary to use expensive ingredients. The luxury is in your hands, in your ability. This is luxury …. the human capacity to transform something into emotions. 

– Alex Atala on Season 2 of Chef’s Table

On Being Different

“Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.”

Ralph Waldo Emerson

I read this while watching “River” on Netflix. Just had to know who said such a profound thought. #GladISawThis

UPDATE: Transactional Integrity and Luxury

I updated my last post on Transactional Integrity  with a new post on Linkedin Pulse. Check it out. I’m so glad to be blogging again. I also updated my visuals using free high-res images . Thanks to Kirby Ferguson (@remixeverything) for mentioning.

Personal Mission Statements

Companies have mission statements. So should you. 

Create your own mission statement and see how much easier it is to get out of bed in the morning. Here’s mine:

I’m “giving people access to the best that life has to offer”. 

Failure is A Milestone on The Road to Success

I read something from Theodore Roosevelt today that profoundly inspires me. I know it will do the same for any professional in luxury, or any industry at all. I’m going to keep this one close to the chest.

It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.

– Excerpt from the speech “Citizenship In A Republic”
Delivered at the Sorbonne, in Paris, France on 23 April, 1910